This question is a few years old, but I came across it again and thought it would make a pretty good blog entry.

Heidi writes:

Hi Molly, thank you so much for your site, it’s been tremendously helpful.
I have a question; I just figured out my Neptune is in my 7th house, which serves to obscure my purpose (as well as relationships). How do you overcome the “negative� influences of a planet? I’ve tried looking at the positive aspects of Neptune, but empathy and understanding don’t really seem to have much to do with figuring out what my purpose it. Can you help me?

Heidi,

If you get Neptunian in relationships, it means you sacrifice your own needs and tend to get involved with people who are needy in some way.. people who don’t give back.. or people who are unattainable. Neptune gives you the gift of imagination, which you can use to see what you want to be there rather than what’s really there!

So, how to direct it more positively? Well, getting involved in Neptunian pursuits in positive ways is one thing to do. Neptune is the idea of “serve or suffer;” you need to be giving selflessly in some way.. so find an outlet for selfless giving that’s positive and feeds your soul. Like volunteering.

Secondly, use Saturn. Idealism needs a counterbalance. So when you’re looking for a mate, realize that you have this need to share yourself on a deep psychic level. And on that level, everyone has the potential to be awesome, even a crack addict! But potential doesn’t equal reality; it’s only potential unless it’s developed. So I say, allow yourself to be judgemental when you’re picking a mate! Channel your inner Judge Judy, and don’t go there with someone until your Saturnian side, your realistic self, gives the seal of approval. Is this person capable of giving back to you? Does this person possess strong character? Can this person stand on their own two feet? Can you trust this person? Is this person right for you?

Are there any glaring red flags that you’re tempted to ignore?

See, Neptune’s gift is the ability to create illusions. Now, you can find someone who is stable and can go to that place with you, and that will be good, the two of you can dream together, make music together, feel into each other deeply, then come back down to earth together and pay the bills. But if you dream a frog into a prince, you can go on believing him to be a prince for a while. But the illusion will break down eventually, and once it does, you’re left with a frog, a handful of bills, and a lot of disappointment.