Gratitude
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Since I launched this website with comments in April of last year, I have gotten a lot of really kind and very encouraging feedback.
I also get lots of requests for advice, and I answer them when I can.
Funny thing is, of the people who ask me for advice, and whom I help, very few ever come back to say thanks. Is that weird? I think that’s weird. Maybe they ask the question in the comment and never come back to see if I’ve answered it. Or maybe they don’t like my answers. Or maybe they got what they wanted, and then cast me aside like a stinky dish sponge.
Now my blog readers, you are different. You comment no matter how boring my post, you love cats with me, you encourage my knitting, soothe me when I’m hurting, e-mail me, you make my Leo Moon so purr-y happy. María, Katie, Alyssa, Hannah, Pat. And Lance and Kate, you don’t comment but I know you read. Thank you, ladies. And Lance. Have I missed anyone?
This is for Alyssa--

I have been working on this since Christmas. It’s the bottom of an Elizabeth Zimmermann sweater from her Knitter’s Almanac.
Have I mentioned on this blog how much I love love love Mrs. Zimmermann? Unfortunately, I started knitting about a decade too late; she gave up the ghost in 1999.
But fortunately she left a wealth of books, a couple of which I own, and videos, which I have only heard about at this point. As you read through her instructions and advice on knitting techniques, you often come across gems like this:
Let nobody say she can’t sew up a sweater— she just doesn’t want to. Reminds me of the infuriating remark, “I’ve always wanted to knit, but I just can’t.” Pish, my good woman, you can plan meals, can’t you? You can put your hair up? You can type, write fairly legibly, shuffle cards? All of these are more difficult than knitting. You just don’t want to knit, so why pretend you do? It’s not compulsory; take up something else.
One more story, and then I really must get to work.

This is my mom and me, with her kitty Sadie, who she rescued from the road back in the Fall. It’s Christmas day. Sadie has recovered quite well, and has revealed herself as a scrapper. All teeth and claws and energy.
But she looks quite calm here, doesn’t she? We have been playing the three recorders that we received from my sister Amy’s very cool mother-in-law. We’re learning to play them from the book that came with the package. Boy, we had some fun belting out screechy versions of “Mary Had a Little Lamb.” We even did some Beethoven (Ode to Joy). You can imagine.
Well, Miss Sadie the Scrappy jumped right up in Mom’s lap and curled up like the demurest pussy cat, purring delightedly. She LOVED our concert. It was the most bizarre thing. As our playing became more screechy and dissonant, the purring became louder. So moved was she by our glorious music.
It was a fun Christmas. No politics (very touchy as Mom is a Fox News Republican and we are the hated “Liberals”— it can get ugly), no big, expensive gifts, just music and fun. And the three of us together.
- 7 February 2006
- Comments (6)


Molly Cliborne

1 · pat · 7 February 2006
Hey, Molly~
It's those small things that matter ya' know? Like your sweater being not completed so it is open-ended like those we love, acceptance with the way things are. So imperfectly perfect.
Your mentioning the rip ‘n' run forgetting to thank you from those who request your advice. You have continuity of those rich moments that so many miss, and this you can teach by example, and you are.
In case I forgot, thank you for being a thoughtful one in an oft thoughtless world.
Love, Pat
2 · María · 7 February 2006
Hello Molly,
Oh what a wonderful Christmas pix!...and it sounds like your Christmas was a wonderful family time. Please say hi to your mom and give little Sadie a little ‘kitty-love' pat too. Our family had a really nice Christmas too and they are so special to me because of me not celebrating for almost thirty-five years. When you haven't had something and then you experience it-- especially precious moments with friends and family-- well, the memories are all the more special and precious in one's heart.
Your friend Miss Maya has been in my thoughts and prayers with loving, healing energies. And I've been thinking of you too and was a little bit worried because you didn't post in your blog for a while. You are such a special person with a way of communicating that is an incredible gift. I've learned so much from your website. Thank you for all the excelant info. I am always a bit sad that I live on the West Coast because I would just love to take your astrology course-- it would be so cool to if you could do an email-type course. Oh, I love ‘Making the Gods Work For You' by Caroline Casey-- way cool book.
Incidently, even Jesus had experiences with people who never said thank you. I believe on one occasion he healed about ten people-- they were overjoyed with new good health and healing and litterly ‘danced' away (some couldn't walk). Ten-- 10 people and you know what? only one-- 1 came back to say thank you. Man that is pretty awful to be healed and not come back and say thank you-- I'd be darn estatic if you back didn't hurt anymore. But you have to wonder were they so thankful and happy and caught up in the moment and wanted to be with their families and friends that the moment just passed? Or what happened?
Peace and Loving thoughts,
María
3 · Alyssa · 27 February 2006
Oh bother, I’m just now getting around to commenting here though I read it a while ago—Love to read your blog and am honored to be mentioned!
You are an excellent knitter—I’m very impressed!
Yes, aren’t holidays just a mixed bag?!
Nice to hear Sadie is blooming in her happy home!
4 · Molly · 28 February 2006
Thanks Alyssa!
A couple of days after I posted this photo, I discovered a mistake in my knitting.. 20 rows down. This Leo Moon, Sun in the 6th house gal couldn’t let it go.. so rip rip rip! I knitted all though the Olympic snowboarding, men’s figure-skating, bobsled, etc. and I am back to where I was at the beginning of the month.
Oddly I’m not too frustrated. With knitting it seems to be about the journey rather than the destination!
5 · Hannah · 7 March 2006
Dearest Molly,
I’m so confused! I thought I had commented on this post but I guess not. Silly me. I just wanted to say that I understand your need for feedback. I think the reason why the majority of people don’t give it is a.) they don’t realize that the ‘expert’ has need for it. b.) they may feel shy about it—I know I did. I thought I was bugging you! c.) they simply don’t feel compelled to have interaction.
If I had known you enjoyed the comments so much I would comment every day! One goal I try to keep in mind is to support people, especially those who need and deserve it. I love your site, and mostly I love your presence. I hardly know you but I feel like I’ve known you for a long time. Strange…I guess it’s that approachability and warmth you provide.
Your blog is personal and thoughful and the pictures and anecdotes are a lot of fun. Keep up the good work!
Gracias and Hugs,
Hannah
6 · elsa · 28 March 2006
I just wanted to tell you, almost no one thanks me either. 1 in 8 or so will take the time to email. I think there are many reasons, but mostly I think it’s the dear Abby factor. You write dear abby, she responds and that’s it! You are not obligated to write her again..
Cheerio. :)